6 times a week I head off to the local primary school in Miners Rest to meet up with a great group of people who are a part of the Nexus BT fat loss group training community.
As I walk through the school gates I see 5 sculptures, 4 of which really resonate with me.
The 5th one is GETTING ALONG, which is really important as well, don't get me wrong.
If these 5 'you can do it' keys are important to a child's education, their social interaction with others and to their development through to adulthood. How are children supposed to believe that they are important if we, the adults, are not modelling these behaviours?
PERSISTENCE - not giving up on something because we don't understand something immediately - since when does being an adult mean that we automatically pick things up the first time we read it, do it, watch it, listen to it? Why do we fear asking questions, making mistakes, doing new things?
CONFIDENCE - the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something. For kids that is perhaps a teacher or a parent. Who do you have confidence in? Have you lost that confidence in yourself because of past experiences? When you find someone you can have confidence in, you, yourself will start to grow in confidence. Your self talk will change, not only in thoughts but in words that your children will hear.
RESILIENCE - we all want out kids to be able to deal with the ups and downs of life and not let the bad times weigh them down. to not feel like they are stupid, slow, or dumb because they don't get questions right the first time. We want kids to be ok with making mistakes because that is how they learn. How are you with making mistakes, with getting things wrong?
ORGANISATION How do we expect our kids to be organised, to get their school bags ready, to have their homework done, to even keep their rooms tidy, if we, the adults, are not organised. If you constantly say to yourself that you are too busy, then you will always be rushed and never have time for anything. By having a daily routine, a structure, that you stick to, it makes life a lot easier.
We all want children to grow up to be happy and confident adults who feel like they can set and achieve their goals in life.
No matter what your goals are.
No matter what your starting point.
No matter what you've been told in the past.
Be PERSISTENT. don't give up on your goals.
Have CONFIDENCE in the process.
Develop RESILIENCE. Let all the negativity bounce off you like you have a force field surrounding you. Be ok with making mistakes.
Practise ORGANISATION. If you don't have time to cook breakfast in the morning, then do it the night before. Cook up more than one serving per person when doing the evening meal. Train in the mornings if you keep missing out because of work keeping you back in the evenings.
If your child wanted to achieve a goal really, really badly, you would do everything in your power to keep them on track, especially when times get tough. If you would do it for your child, why don't you do it for yourself?