When staying the same is more PAINFUL than change, that’s when things start to happen.
We humans don't like pain or discomfort. Most of the time we will move away from anything that makes us feel pain/discomfort. So when we view change as more painful/uncomfortable than staying the way we are, then we stay.
People view dietary change and starting exercising as something that is painful and uncomfortable.
But do you really want to wait until you have a heart attack; stroke or your kidneys start to pack it in before you change your food habits and your exercise habits?
“Oh well when your time is up, its up”
That is a comment a type 2 diabetic made when discussing the health risks and not wanting to implement any dietary or physical changes. Only problem with that is that a heart attack/stroke/kidney disease may not mean it is "lights out".
To still be alive and to not function fully, to not be able to live an independent life, to not be able to do the things you want to do.
There are plenty of ads for Quit Smoking that focus on a mother or father not being able to get out and play with their kids because of lung cancer or emphysema. Ads showing people sitting at the dinning table breathing through an oxygen mask or getting pushed around in wheelchairs.
Is that anyway to live? Well der, no it isn’t and that is what the reason for quitting the smokes is for most people. For those that don’t quit, despite knowing all the risks, why not?
Is it perhaps because you don’t value yourself enough?
That deep down you don’t care and basically don’t give a shit about the future?
It’s a pretty shit feeling that; to not care enough about yourself to start to implement any form of change that can lead to a change in behaviour to improve your long term health.
What would I know about that? Well for 20 odd years I had an eating disorder. Rip Snorter one it was. It was the reason why I didn’t accept certain jobs, didn’t want to be a school teacher, avoided relationships, and all sorts of other things that I missed out on. It cost me so much money. $350 a week was wasted on food that just ended up down the loo.
I knew that what I was doing was detrimental to my health, that I was wasting money, but like anything that is an addiction (because essentially that is what it was, combined with depression), I just didn’t care.
Those words in my head that kept telling me how crap I was, how worthless I was were so much louder than the ones that were trying to tell me that I am worth it, that I can do things.
What started my road to recovery was the decision to get a job in Japan. I’d had enough of working in a call centre and wanted to do something else – not terribly sure what, but something else. The plan was to work and save up as much as I could and perhaps go back to Uni.
But how could I save if I was still flushing $$$$ down the loo. And that was my WHY.
It wasn’t a cold turkey occurrence. I did have relapses; I did have the negative thoughts being louder than the positive ones. But all I did was chip away and keep telling myself “I AM WORTH IT”.
You can’t expect to change a lifetime of negative self-image overnight, but you can keep working on improving how you value yourself everyday.
My WHY has changed from not wasting $$$ to now working on repairing a body bashed around for years of overtraining and underfeeding. To do everything in my power to be as strong as my body can be to stay as healthy as I can.
Be it quitting smoking, alcohol, pot, obsessive exercise, weighing on scales, counting calories or anything else that you can think of the is detrimental to your physical and or mental health you have to have a reason to change.
But don’t leave it until the last minute. Your body and your soul can heal itself if you give them half a chance.
Believe in yourself.
You ARE worth it.