“What are you trying to say??”
Is that what your reply is when someone says to you “come and join me at this training place I’ve just started at”?
Do you think that they are inferring that you are fat and lazy? Do you feel slightly insulted that they even suggest that you need to hit the gym?
Let’s pause and think about this for a few moments… WHY do you think your friend/spouse/child/sibling/parent/doctor/cat/dog or goldfish have invited you to train with them?
Could it be that they want to be able to catch up with you more often, you know spend a bit more time together?
Could it be that they are having some fun, letting off some steam and de-stressing and they know that you are pretty stressed out and think that this is a could way for you to de-stress?
Could it be that they actually CARE about you and want you to start to turn your health around because they would like you to be around for longer than is currently predicted…
If people did not care about you they would NOT even bother floating the idea of joining them on their fat loss/fitness journey.
I KNOW how hard it is to listen and take on board other’s suggestions and advice. Changing your thoughts and ideals about exercise and food is as hard quitting cigarettes or any other addictive behaviour.
Trust me on that one I have lived it. And it all boils down to self worth.
How much value do you put on yourself, you the individual that you are…
How much do you care about yourself?
I could say to you.....
that you are shortening your life span dramatically by being obese/overweight.
Don’t you want to be around to see your kids grow up, get married, to play with your grandkids?
If you truly don’t believe that anyone gives a toss about you and that you simply aren’t worth it then no matter what anyone else says you won’t change.
Think you are in control of your thoughts, your feelings?
Our thoughts, which lead to our words, which lead to our actions, are all actually driven by neurotransmitters in our brains. Yep, those thoughts that you think you control, well those thoughts come from chemicals in your brain.
Neurotransmitters are chemical messengers that transmit thought from one cell to the next. How you experience emotion and how you feel is dictated by certain neurotransmitters.
Depleted supplies of “feel good” transmitters means it will be impossible for you to feel happy, upbeat, motivated or on track. You will feel just the opposite; you will feel like crap, like there is no point in getting out of bed, you have this all encompassing feeling of helplessness about the course of your life.
It is so debilitating to feel this way and time and time again when people tell me this is how they feel about themselves and their lives it breaks my heart because I KNOW exactly how they feel. It is the crappiest feeling in the universe.
How do I know? Because that is exactly how I felt for an incredibly long time. How did my feel good neurotransmitters get so low? For me it began with too much crap food, which lead me to gain weight, (I got up to 13 stone, roughly 83kg) which made me even more miserable, so then I started exercising – up to 2 hours a day and counting calories (must not go over 1200 cals a day).
Why that all triggered off even greater feelings of crappiness is because my nervous system (brain) wasn’t getting adequate fuel and nutrients. Those neurotransmitters are hungry little buggers, transmitting messages is a taxing job. And if they aren’t getting their required amounts of aminos, then their levels drop off very quickly and very badly.
What a marvelous merry-go-round this feeling of general crappiness is! You feel like crap so you eat for comfort, yet that comfort food is actually contributing to that feeling of crappiness, which makes you want to eat more comfort food!!
Lowered mood, fatigue, lack of motivation, persistent soreness, strength loss and slowing of movement. It really is not the way you want to live for the rest of your life, is it??
I know I have moved from talking about exercise to brain messages to food but they are all intertwined. Getting started by joining that person who cares enough about you to want you to join them doing some exercise a couple times a week is a really good way to get your feel good neurotransmitters going again.
So the next times some one says to you “come and join me at this training place” don’t be offended. Feel chuffed that someone cares enough about you to suggest it!!
If you’d like to find out more about how you can exercise and eat to get your feel good hormones firing again please don’t hesitate to email me!
Life truly is too short to not feel better!!